A well-established psychotherapist, Uzi Ben-Ami, Ph.D., is a respected presence in the Rockville, Maryland, medical community. Among the areas in which Uzi Ben-Ami, Ph.D., has in-depth knowledge is in counseling individuals and families on emotional addiction, depression, and anger management.
The latter involves psycho-therapeutic strategies for preventing and controlling anger, which can have a negative impact both on an individual's health and his or her relationships. As explored on the Mayo Clinic website, there are a number of practical ways of controlling anger, including waiting until calmness returns before expressing reactions. Once reasoned thoughts manifest, frame the frustration in a way that is clear and direct, without being confrontational.
Instead of emphasizing frustration over a problem that makes you angry, emphasize ways of working toward solutions in a collaborative and inclusive way. Employ “I” statements as a way of framing interpersonal angst. This way you don't claim to speak for others. For example, instead of simply stating “You’re playing that music too loud!” use a phrase such as "I’m trying to sleep and find the music you’re playing too loud.” This approach encourages both specificity and respect for the other party, which are key to lessening tension and achieving an equitable solution.
